Monday, 7 May 2018

Ask Shelley

I ended my last blog with the line ask Shelley. What I mean by that, is it is important to have a confidant in your life who you can ask anything of.  In my case, Shelley just so happens to be my life partner and my chief confidant.

I deal with my depression every day and during the course of any given day I can have highs and lows. Certain thoughts, feelings can act as triggers. Or it might be a phone call, conversation, email that can create depressive moments.

Take today for example, I was all knotted up internally from the events of the weekend. I called Shelley and she happened to say the right words to turn my frown upside down.
Everyone needs to have that someone to ask when they need that level of support. That person is non judgemental and simply asks what can I do or how can I support you even when it is 3 in the morning.

Before Shelley I had Mike my best friend for over 25 years. Unfortunately, cancer took him far too early. It will 10 years in July this year. I think of him every day and I know he is watching over and guiding me just like my father is.

The two years in between Mike and Shelley were hard, I didn't know who to turn to so I floundered and allowed my depression to intensify. I made bad decisions, my weight went out of control along with my diabetes. I chased after things and people who were unattainable. I learned some hard lessons. Lessons like don't force things, allow things to come to you and don't try so hard to make things happen.

Now I am wonderfully supported by great people who accept me for who I am and most importantly are there for me as I am there for them. You know who you are SI, AF, LC, DSC. NBK, PK, TD, CM and OL. If you don't have the supportive non judgemental people around you, just look around and find people who would make good candidates for this and just ask.

No comments:

Post a Comment