Father’s Day

Today in North America we celebrate father’s everywhere. Past, present and future. Father’s no longer with us like my own. Next month will be 14 years he has been gone.  I miss him dearly everyday. Only in the last couple of years have I truly appreciated his remarkable life. He was a historian, scholar, administrator, writer, volunteer, traveler, survivor and most important a dad.

A dad who when I needed someone to talk to he was there. When I was in a bind he was there to provide assistance and support non judgemental. Was he perfect, far from it, was he deeply flawed yes. Who isn’t though.

My father continues to watch over me. He has even come to visit me on several occasions. I honour him several times a year with a scotch salute. He loved his scotch.

I am also honouring him everyday by being the best partner to my remarkable sweetheart, by being the best step dad to 2 amazing young adults (Gerry and Kelsey) who continue to amaze and dazzle me in creative ways each day. By being the best grandfather to Oliver (Ollie) the best grandson in the world.

I didn’t know how I would be as a dad and grandfather with no personal experience to draw from. Well that was quickly overcome when Ollie climbed up on to me at age 1 and fell asleep on my chest. Words can’t  describe my feelings at that moment. I continue to be amazed by Ollie everyday. The impact he has had on me is incredible.

I am a stronger, confident, balanced man who turns to mush in Ollie’s presence. He warms my heart and mental health.

There is no secret to being a good dad or partner or grandfather. It is to be kind, supportive. To be a giver not a taker. To take risks, make mistakes, be accountable and responsible.

Thank you dad and all the fatherly figures in my life (you know who you are) for leading the way every day. Life is a journey full of wonderful experiences and stories. Sharing your story is a freeing feeling.